Inner Wisdom

The Art of Friendship.

The first step in the art of friendship is to be a friend, then making friends takes care of itself.  To be a friend we should start by being friends to ourselves, by being true to our highest and best and by aligning ourselves with the enduring values of human life that make for growth and progress.

To be a friend we should strive to be "like the shadow of a great rock in a weary land," to be a source of refuge and strength to those who walk in darkness.

To be a friend we should believe in the inherent goodness of people and in their potential greatness; we should treat people in a big spirit, expectant of a noble response.

To be a friend we should strive to lift people up, not cast them down; to encourage, not discourage; to set an example that will be an inspiration to others.

To be a friend we should be sensitively responsive to the dreams and aims of others and should show sincere appreciation for the contributions others make to the enrichment of our lives.

To be a friend we should practice the companionship of silence and the magic of words that our speech may build and not destroy, help and not hinder.

To be a friend we should close our eyes to the faults of others and open them to our own.

To be a friend we should not attempt to reform or reprimand, but should strive only to make others happy if we can.

To be a friend we should be ourselves; we should be done with hypocrisy, artificiality and pretense, we should meet and mingle with people in quiet simplicity and humility.

To be a friend we should be tolerant, we should have an understanding heart and a forgiving nature, knowing that all people stumble now and then, and that those who never made a mistake never accomplished anything.

To be a friend we should join hands with all people who are working for great principles, great purposes and great causes; we should put our shoulders to the wheel to help achieve common goals.

To be a friend we should go more than halfway with our fellow people; we should greet others first and not wait to be greeted; we should radiate a spirit of overflowing good will.

To be a friend we should remember that we are human magnets; that like attracts like, and that what we give we get.

To be a friend we should recognize that no person knows all the answers, and that we should add each day to our knowledge of how to live the friendly way. 

Wilferd Arlan Peterson.

Reach For Your Star.

Do not take anything as being forever
because forever
is only as long as today.

Know that the people who are richest
are not those who have the most,
but those who need the least.

We are at our strongest
when life is at its worst,
and at our weakest
when life no longer offers a challenge.

It is wiser not to expect
but to hope,
for in expecting you ask for disappointment,
whereas in hoping you invite surprise.

Unhappiness doesn't come
from not having something that you want,
but from the lack of something inside that you need.

There are things to hold on too,
and things to let go,
and letting go doesn't mean you lose,
but that you acquire that which has been waiting
around the corner.

Most of all,
remember to use your dreams
as a way of knowing yourself better,
and as inspiration
to reach for your star.......

 

By Nancye Sims

How do you control your thoughts?

How do you control your thoughts? 

Through conscious choice and practice.  When you realize that you are worrying and fretting and are not practicing concern, try this: Plant your feet firmly in reality, and deal with the facts. Surrender to what you cannot change. Try to improve on it with a plan of action.  That way you are thinking, formulating a plan, taking action.  End of worrying.

In “Life Strategies,” Dr. Phillip McGraw deals with this idea in another way.  He says, “you create your own experience.”  This means that you understand and accept that the solution to not worry lies within you.  It’s a matter of choice.  Ask yourself, “what choices, thoughts, and behaviors can I change that will help me worry less?”

I’m not suggesting that bad things that may have happened to you were your choice.  But as an adult, you do have the choice about how you think about it and deal with it.  You create your experience day by day, through the choices you make.

Dr. McGraw also said, “Choosing thoughts contributes to your experience because when you choose your thoughts, you choose the consequences associated with those thoughts.”  In order to truly change your actions (external), you must change your perceptions (internal).  When we are able to alter our perspective, we have control of our thoughts.

There are several ways to shift your perspective in your life. Thomas Leonard, founder of Coach University,  identifies these three things:

• Finding and addressing the fears that stop you from moving forward.

• Clarifying your vision, the picture of what you want for your life, so you have a specific destination to move toward.

• Letting go of the “shoulds” in your life, doing things others want you to do but that make you miserable.

When you are able to make these shifts, you become internally directed as opposed to externally motivated.

It has been said that men and women can banish worry, fear, and even illness by changing their thoughts. What have you got to lose?  Change your mind, and you change your life.

To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept.

Once we have begun to accept life's flow, and to avoid pointless efforts, we are letting go of our need to exert control -- a much overvalued commodity, although one very much in tune with the temper of the times. We could choose instead to have acceptance. This is not so much to do with fatalism; rather it is a matter of working happily with, rather than stubbornly against, the grain of nature.

To "let go" does not mean to stop caring,

it means I can’t do it for someone else.

To "let go" is not to cut myself off,

it’s the realization I can’t control another.

To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow

learning from natural consequences.

To "let go" is to admit powerlessness,

which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another,

it is to make the most of myself.

To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about.

To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a

human being.

To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging all the

outcomes,

but to allow others to affect their own destinies.

To "let go" is not to be protective, it is to permit another

to face reality.

To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept.

To "let go" is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead

to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires,

but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.

To "let go" is not to regret the past, but to grow and live

for the future.

To "let go" is to fear less and love more.

Louise L. Hay

Don't be afraid to dream big and to follow your dreams.

Let nothing hold you back from
exploring your wildest fantasies,
wishes, and aspirations.
Don't be afraid to dream big
and to follow your dreams
wherever they may lead you.
Open your eyes to their beauty;
open your mind to their magic;
open your heart to their possibilities.

Dare to dream.
Whether they are in color
or in black and white,
whether they are big or small,
easily attainable or almost impossible,
look to your dreams,
and make them become reality.
Wishes and hopes are nothing
until you take the first step
towards making them something!

Dare to dream,
Because only by dreaming,
will you ever discover
who you are, what you want,
and what you can do.
Don't be afraid to take risks,
to become involved,
to make commitment.
Do whatever it takes to make
your dreams come true.
Always believe in miracles,
and always believe in you!

~ Julie Anne Ford ~

Find out what making your wishes come true really feels like.

You're good, but you're going to be great.

You're the best, but you're going to get better.

Sometimes the paths we take are long and hard, but remember: those are always the ones that lead to the most beautiful views.

Challenges come along inevitably: how you respond to them determines who you are - deep down inside - and everything you're going to be.

Increase the chances of reaching your goals by working at them gradually. The very best you can do is all that is asked of you.

Realize that you are capable of working miracles of your own making. Remember that opportunities have a reason for knocking on your door, and the right ones are there for the taking.

You don't always have to win, but you do need to know what it takes to be a winner.

It's up to you to find the key that unlocks the door to a more fulfilling life.

Understand that increased difficulty brings you nearer to the truth of how to survive it - and get beyond it.

Cross your bridges.

Meet your challenges.

Reach out for your dreams, and bring them closer and closer to your heart.

Get rid of the "if only's" and get on with whatever you need to do to get things right.

Go after what you want in life, with all the blessings of all the people who care about you. And find out what making your wishes come true really feels like.

~ Collin McCarty ~   

Reclaim your power and learn the truth.

Lie of Attraction

If you want good things to happen to you, you must use correct language and watch everything you say.

Truth about Attraction

When you live from the heart and consistently come from a place of love and honor for yourself and others, it simply won’t matter what words you use.

When you hear yourself judging or condemning yourself, it’s a major red flag that your thoughts must be changed. Reversing consistent patterns of self-negation is far more important than worrying about fleeting negative ideas or using words such as hope or want instead of believe. It’s your self-perception and your self-love that will bring real energetic harmony and guide your life force forward. This core truth not only determines the quality of your life, it also influences the results of your dreams and desires.

Don’t obsess over your “attraction language.” The most important language is that of self-love. When you’re continually using words that don’t honor you, then that’s the stuff you really need to change. When you recognize the language of the old lies you were taught—phrases such as I’m a failure, I don’t deserve, and I don’t believe in myself—take a deep breath and affirm: I release that. I bless myself and live in the beauty and truth of my eternal worth. I am free. I am deserving, and I am filled with value just as I am.

A big part of the power of attraction comes from your peace of mind, so don’t panic over every negative response. And since no random thought can ruin things for you, don’t make yourself crazy scrutinizing every word you think and say. When you recognize a persistent pattern of fear or self-judgment, simply make it your highest priority to change that habit.

The intention to bring healing, trust, and love to your own heart will ignite your life force with brilliant energy. In the deepest understanding of consciousness-created reality, it’s your pervasive peace and gentle self-care that make your life magnetic. All attraction starts with this truth: You are worthy of your own love.

Sandra Anne Taylor

Whatever you wish there was more of , be that.

Whatever you wish there was more of , be that.

Whatever you want your relationships and friendships to be , be that.

Whatever you want the world to be , be that.

If you want there to be less fear and more love in the world , start with yourself.

If you want there to be less stress  anxiety , depression and tension in the world , start with yourself.

If you want the world to be a more peaceful place, fairer , more generous and compassionate , start with yourself.

                               Listen to Anthony Robbins.

 ''Any time you sincerely want to make a change , the first thing you must do is raise your standards. When people ask me what really change my life...I tell them that absolutely the most important thing was changing what I demanded of myself. I wrote down all the things I would no longer accept in my life , all the things I would no longer tolerate , and all the things I aspired to becoming.''

Easy Does It. . .

Since there are opposites to all things, I will choose the easy instead of the difficult way.

I can choose relaxation or stress, detachment or control, acceptance or dominance, freedom or attachment, peace or strife, joy or sorrow, and bliss or misery.

I will remember that when the hard way presents itself, it is only one side of things and doesn't deserve my attention.

When my mind is at rest and I am empty and receptive, the easy and beautiful unfolding takes place. This is known as recovering the easy way.

Jim McGregor.

''If one's life is simple, contentment has to come.  Simplicity is extremely
important for happiness.  Having few desires, feeling satisfied
with what you have, is very vital:  satisfaction with just enough food,
clothing, and shelter to protect yourself from the elements.''  Dalai Lama

Love is all there is!

“There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer. There is no disease that enough love will not heal. No door that enough love will not open. No gulf that enough love will not bridge. No wall that enough love will not throw down. And no sin that enough love will not redeem. It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble. How hopeless the outlook. How muddled the tangle. How great the mistake. A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all. And if you could love enough you would be the happiest and most powerful person in the world.” Emmet Fox.

It’s true, you know. It sounds wonderful and it is true. What do you need to do to get to that space where you could be the happiest and most powerful person in the world? I think inner space travel is just beginning. We are just beginning to learn about the Power that we have inside us. We are not going to find it if we contract. The more we can open to ourselves, the more we are going to find the Universal energies available to assist us. There are incredible accomplishments that we are capable of.

Take a few breaths. Open your chest and give your heart room to expand. Keep practicing, and sooner or later the barriers will begin to drop. Today is your beginning point.

Louise L. Hay